Real Life Struggles When it Comes to Choosing Your Friends

Let's talk about how hard it is sometimes to choose your friends. I have always been a person who fluctuates between various circles of friends. I like to think that I have a certain empathy for which many girls tell me about their problems, people I listen to, and from time to time if they ask me for advice. This makes me a wild card; that's why a while ago, I started to jump into taking good care of the people around you.

Waters with the beliefs of the people on the outside 

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I'm going to tell you what happened to me a few months ago. I have been in therapy for almost half a year, as a result of cutting off a love relationship, I began to question myself and work more on my self-esteem. As a result of this, many things in my present life began to change, and the most notable of them was the relationship with my closest friends. You see, I have a special friend that I have known since we were in diapers, in recent years, we have both started to grow apart. We simply did not understand each other at all, and this created a lot of rivalry between us. However, after my change in attitude towards life and with a little interest on my part, things began to change. A few months passed, and almost inevitably, the friendship began to blossom again, and I could not be more grateful for life.

The thing with friends is that they are a choice, just like the couple

It is a choice that is made every day. Now your friends like you are not perfect, in fact nobody is. We all would like to have the friend who keeps all the secrets, the one who is unconditional, but come on, we are all human. While it is true that you should not have toxic relationships, it is very likely that along the way, you will meet people who are not quite right with themselves, and it works. Each one has their inner work, and as long as the other person does not do things to harm you or intervene in your personal growth, then you are choosing well.

No one can choose your friends only you

You have the right to choose your friends, and I hope that the criteria to see if they contribute or take away. Set limits on your friendships, no one can tell you who to talk to or who to do what. Get to know people and have your own criteria. You cannot judge people, what we see is a perception of our reality. Sometimes we perceive certain hurts in people, insecurities, but in reality, you do not know what is happening in the inner world of these people. Judging someone is toxic. When that person tries to be your friend and does not hurt you does not lead to anything. If you have doubts about whether or not she is your friend, there is a simple way to get out of the problem. Think about what it brings you. If it takes away more than it gives you or makes you feel bad, it's time to get out of that relationship.

Take care of yourself, avoid basing your decisions on the opinion of other people.

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